In 1979, at Stonewall, a gay bar in New York City, gays and police clashed in an event that would forever change the face of gay life from that point forward. Just like the civil rights movement before gay people found their voice with strength in numbers and have made many major strides ever since. With the passing of the 2018 Gay Marriage Law, gay people accomplished a MAJOR legal achievement.

Even though the preceding sentence is huge, and the LBGTQ community has made win after win after win they still have mountains to climb as far as discrimination, problems in the workplace, coming out to family and friends and growing older in gay world where youth and beauty are as important as honesty and dignity.

From someone that has walked those paths (as well as many others) several times over, many difficult situations you can work through on your own but for those problems without a foreseeable way out, I can help.


Never is a third-party "referee," (so to speak) more important than working with a couple with multiple problems. Bringing two people together as a couple you can expect to have different views of looking at certain situations. This is perfectly normal. It's when certain situations turns into several situations and winning your viewpoint is more important then deciding what's really best for the two of you life can start to get difficult."

The key is learning how to both "communicate and compromise." Communication and compromise are an imperative part of a successful future for any couple. And every couple heading down a bad path owes it to themselves to see a good counselor, with several consecutive sessions before the "break-up or divorce," words are ever uttered.

We live in an "I'm out of here," world. If anything is the least bit an inconvenience or trouble, it's much easier to just get out and move on instead of working on the problem with a good therapist. Don't you owe it to yourself and your partner at least that ???


We all know what a great football, basketball or tennis coach (just to name a few) can do for us as aspiring athletes, but they can be just as effective coaching us through life as they do in sports. Helping us to focus, set goals and achieve these goals can be daily events for a life coach and their clients.

Life Coaches are becoming more and more popular and their help can be invaluable. A good life coach can literally change the direction of a client's life whether it's a career adjustment or change, a relationship issue or just becoming happier in your day to day life.

If you feel like your life is in a rut you may want to give a life coach a try. A life coach may be just what your future needs to "jumpstart," the next phase of your life !


Experts agree that one in four Americans will suffer from a Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) in life, while one in ten will endure Clinical Depression, (CD) with women suffering more in both categories.

People with GAD, ruminate over the same thought again and again, even though 99% of the time these issues never come to fruition. They also can suffer from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, (OCD) like continuous handwashing, checking locks over and over or making sure the stove is off several times in a row.

Depression is an organic disease where the "feel-good," hormones in the brain norepinephrine and serotonin are not at the levels they should be. As a result, the client can become more and more down, hopeless and emotional. Experts concur the best solution is the combination is an anti-depressant and "Talk-Therapy," In many cases, a family practice doctor and a therapist/counselor work in tandem to obtain the best solution for the client.

So if your experiencing any of the GAD symptoms or the depression symptoms, sleeping too much or to less, if you're losing or gain more than 10 pounds in a short period, or feeling hopeless and exceedingly emotional call a therapist/counselor.

You don't have to feel this way. Feeling good again starts with seven digits.


The toughest event one will face in life is the loss of a loved one. Many navigate this incredibly sad period on their own while others benefit from the warm environment and compassionate words of a professional. Whether the loved one is young, middle-age or older the death can be just as tragic at any age. If the death is sudden or if the patient lingers for months or years, again the grief can be just as tragic.

Author Elisabeth Kubler-Ross penned the New York Times bestseller, "On Death and Dying." in which she describes five stages of grief including denial, anger, bargaining, depression and finally acceptance. There is no one set way to grieve as every person will have their own way to mourn. It is important the counselor/therapist makes sure their client experiences each stage.


Even though Sports Psychology has been around for decades I'm sure there's more than a few of you are hearing about this concept for the first time. The therapist actually teaches the athlete "how to compete," so they can be at there absolute best on "game-day."

A great sports psychologist will accomplish the following with there athlete-client to,

  • Dismiss negative self-talk
  • Reduce game-day anxiety
  • Relax under pressure
  • Set and achieve weekly goals
  • Teach them breathing, visualization and relaxation techniques
  • Increase confidence
  • Recover from slumps and injuries at a faster pace

Sports psychology was once only used by the "upper-tier athletes" in our world. More specifically the professional athletes (think NFL, NBA, NHL, etc.) the U.S. national and international athletes and the top collegiate sports programs in the country. The last ten years we have seen these concepts trickle down to high school and middle school athletes with the same positive outcomes.

Experts agree that 80% of an athlete's competition-day achievements come from the mind. I had a high school sophomore who had no dreams of ever playing ball in college let alone get a scholarship of any kind, "there's no way I'm good enough" work with me weekly for four months and by the end of his junior year, he had full athletic scholarship offers from several top 25 teams ! IT WORKS !! And that's why all the "upper-tier athletes" work with sports psychologists several times a week and again, have for decades.

Parents of the athlete also work with an SP (usually through skype or a podcast) because what they say to their athlete son or daughter can have extremely positive or negative repercussions.